The biggest problem dreamers have is the belief that their dream will turn out exactly like it’s pictured in their mind.
Nothing could be further from the truth. One of Steve Job’s early computers was the Lisa. Have you heard of it? It was named after his daughter. No?
Well, Mr. jobs spent millions of dollars in development for this device that ultimately failed to gain any broad appeal in the computer market.
If he had stuck with the Lisa idea – determined that his vision for Lisa was exactly how his dream was going to be – we might not have ever known Apple products like we do. Jobs’ real dream was to create a personal computer that was easy for people to use. He didn’t get stuck holding on to only one way to make his dream a reality.
Your dream will change dramatically before you’re done. It will end up looking nothing like what you have envisioned by the time you achieve success. Dreams require that you be as flexible as Gumby-the-toy while you are working through your dream process.
You might start out as a water color painter only to evolve into oil painting, then go from painting landscapes to people before your painting dream sees the success you seek. It could take 30 years before the world appreciates your work. It’s hard to say how your dream journey will unfold because successful dreaming requires that you stretch and grow.
You must change from who you are today.
I first began blogging on a little-remembered platform called AOL Journals. No one really understood what blogging was back then, but I liked the idea that I could write, hit publish and share my thoughts with the world, even if the “world” I was writing for was my mother and a few good friends.
Before long, I migrated to Blogger and then eventually to my own hosting, website and blogging platform. All I knew is that I wanted to be a part of the online conversation and I wanted to make people laugh at parenting.
I had to blog.
My blogging style changed and I decided to start 8 Women Dream to teach women that they could share their dreams online and if they stuck with it, they could make their dreams come true. At first, we were a local group of women meeting once a month, then as the Internet exploded, it became apparent that we could help more women if we regularly shared our dream journey online.
8 Women Dream changed from focusing on ourselves to how our dream stories could help other women (and men) around the world to be brave enough to take a dream risk for themselves.
I wouldn’t be here today if I wasn’t willing to change and grow with this dream of mine. Technology is constantly evolving and changing the world as we know it. Learning to ride the wave of change kept me in the game. It also enabled me to change how I made a living.
Think about what this website would look like if I left it at 1990 standards. No one with a mobile device would be able to read it and all of you would probably make fun of us. Change is a natural part of the dream equation.
8 Women Dream started with the idea that women could buy their own glass slipper – rather than waiting for a man to bring it to them. It’s not a feminist agenda – just the idea that we make better partners, friends, providers, people when we are learning to fish ourselves.
Some of the things that you try will work seemingly perfect, while your other efforts will fall flat–just like Steve Jobs’ Lisa computer. Some of what you do may resonate with people, other times it won’t. People will love you and people will hate you. Your family may think you are out of your mind.
But you must carry on and continue to expand.
Change is the only constant when you dare to try your hand at dreaming big.
It’s easy to quit your dream when everything about dreaming big requires that you change and grow. So many of us are resistant to change. Change is scary so we want everything to stay the same — even when it might not be good for us. We want our children to stay young and those we love to live forever. Life doesn’t work that way. Going after your dreams pushes this fact up in your face.
You have to adjust and change or your dream will die.
Heather of 8 Women Dream came to dreaming by way of wanting to sell the beautiful jewelry she once created. She did sell quite a bit of it before deciding that the jewelry business didn’t appeal to her as a dream anymore. The idea of having to grow her jewelry line and change her life into what it needed to become was beyond what she wanted to do at the time which sent her into a bit of a dream-identity crises.
She looked at selling products online and everything she tried didn’t resonate with her soul. It wasn’t until she approached becoming an empty-nester that Heather made the decision to get healthy and fit. Through losing 100 pounds her real dream sort of fell into her lap.
If Heather had resisted change she wouldn’t be where she is today — coaching other women in taking control of their heath and fitness and showing them it’s possible after the age of 40.
Lisa started out on 8 Women Dream wanting to write and publish a book. She succeeded on the book writing part only to get stuck at the editing before publishing. There the book dream stayed. Lisa had to begin a new dream journey and search for what it is that she wants most from life. The journey has taken her down a road where she now owns commercial real estate property.
8 Women Dream’s Iman moved across several states to recreate a new version of her dream. Sue left family and life-long friends to move with her husband and start a new life in South Africa. Natahsa left Australia for the UK and watched her daughter begin school. Kelly has steadfastly stayed a speaker, but her dream requires that she spend a great deal of time on the road.
Oprah Winfrey first began her career as a talk show host of AM Chicago until she was offered a syndication deal for The Oprah Winfrey Show. In 1986 it was a common format for talk show hosts to spend most of the show handing the mic to the audience for questions instead of sitting in a chair interviewing guests for the hour. At the time, Phil Donahue was the reigning king of this format.
But Oprah didn’t stay with this tried-and-true framework for talk show success, instead she moved to sitting in the chair and conducting the interviews herself. Sometimes she would allow audience participation, but she no longer ran up and down steps letting the audience ask the questions.
Oprah’s dream was to have a platform that she could use for a purpose greater than herself. Keeping that dream in mind she was able to roll with the changes to create the life she dreamed.
Deepak Chopra began his career as the chief of medicine at New England Memorial Hospital (now called the Boston Regional Medical Center). After a meeting with transcendental mediation guru, Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, Chopra quit his job at New England Memorial Hospital and started the Maharishi Ayur-Veda Products International, a company that specialized in alternative products, like herbal teas and oils. (Source: biography.com)
Thus the whole-body healing Deepak Chopra we know today was born. His dream was to help people find balance and healing. He didn’t stay stuck on the idea that he had to work in a hospital in order to fulfill his dream.
Both Oprah and Deepak allowed their dream journey to work out the details of how their dreams would manifest. They were both willing to change and take big risks secure in the belief that the outcome would somehow deliver the dream.
They were open to change.
Your own dream journey will require that you grow. You will become more than the person you are today. Dreaming successfully requires being open to constant change and being willing to adapt–beyond the decision to never give up.
It’s in the change process that you become your dream.
You have but one precious life. Your dream is worth being comfortable with change.
It’s a fabulous journey–filled of change–one I highly recommend.
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Catherine Hughes is the founder of 8 Women Dream. She is passionate about helping women step out of their own way and strike out into a world waiting for their special talents. She’s a published author and a former award-winning mom blogger. Catherine has helped companies both large and small create engaging web content, social media narratives, and unique blogging platforms. She claims to be a redhead but don’t hold that against her.