This week I am helping with a big site online symposium for peak performance.
Talk about 12 hour days!
I have a lot to say next week about online entrepreneurial pursuits and pursuing your life-purpose.
We’ve never before in history had so many solutions and answers to our questions instantly simply by Googling a search term. It’s amazing really. If you want “dream help,” you can Google that term and 8 Women Dream will probably appear in your list of choices.
Isn’t that wonderful?
Finding your life purpose in search — can it be that simple?
Sorry. Not really.
It takes a lot of research and self-reflection to figure out what makes you happiest. Sometimes you have to peal back the layers of pain and heal your past in order to see yourself for all of your possibilities. But some of your answers can be found within the pages of a few good books on the subject. Books can be the best resources for research and personal transformation.
Pick at least two books on finding your life purpose that will give you exercises to work through so that you can set up a plan for launching your new life. Buy a special notebook so you can write notes and evaluate your ideas.
Any book that doesn’t cause you to look at where your life is and what brought you to where you are at now is not a book that will help you change your path and discover your purpose.
Two books that helped change my path are A Whole New Mind Why Right-Brainers Will Rule The Future by Daniel Pink and On Writing by Stephen King. Barbara Sher’s book, I Could Do Anything if I Only Knew What it Was! helped me make the decision to start 8 Women Dream.
Here are my 6 Best Life Purpose Books –
1. Finding Your Own North Star by Martha Beck
“This is a step-by-step program that will help you find your dream. I base all my counseling on the premise that each of us has these two sides: the essential self and the social self. The essential self contains several sophisticated compasses that continuously point toward your North Star.
The social self is the set of skills that actually carry you toward this goal.
Your essential self wants passionately to become a doctor; the social self struggles through organic chemistry and applies to medical school. Your essential self yearns for the freedom of nature; your social self buys the right backpacking equipment.
Your essential self falls in love; your social self watches to make sure the feeling is reciprocal before allowing you to stand underneath your beloved”s window singing serenades.” – Martha Beck
2. Women Who Run with the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
” The way to maintain one’s connection to the wild is to ask yourself what it is that you want.
This is the sorting of the seed from the dirt. One of the most important discriminations we can make in this matter is the difference between things that beckon to us and things that call from our souls.
Nowhere can this be seen more clearly than in the choice of mates and lovers.
A lover cannot be chosen a la smorgasbord. A lover has to be chosen from soul-craving. To choose just because something mouthwatering stands before you will never satisfy the hunger of the soul-self.
And that is what the intuition is for; it is the direct messenger of the soul.” – Clarissa Pinkola Estes
3. Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
“5 Truths about Fear —
Truth 1. The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.
Truth 2. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.
Truth 3. The only way to feel better about myself is to go out… and do it.
Truth 4. Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I’m on unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else.
Truth 5. Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.” – by Susan Jeffers
4. I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was by Barbara Sher
“People have to face regrets. Becoming mature means learning to accept what you cannot change, facing unresolved sorrows and learning to love life as it really happens, not as you would have it happen.
When someone attaches unkindness to criticism, she’s angry. Angry people need to criticize as an outlet for their anger. That’s why you must reject unkind criticism.
Unkind criticism is never part of a meaningful critique of you. Its purpose is not to teach or to help, its purpose is to punish.
Life isn’t supposed to be an all or nothing battle between misery and bliss. Life isn’t supposed to be a battle at all. And when it comes to happiness, well, sometimes life is just okay, sometimes it’s comfortable, sometimes wonderful, sometimes boring, sometimes unpleasant.
When your day’s not perfect, it’s not a failure or a terrible loss. It’s just another day.” – Barbara Sher
5. Springboard: Launching Your Personal Search for Success by G. Richard Shell
“[Upon reading old journals and looking back] … The first thing I recognized, which I thought was astonishing, was I had told stories in my head about myself that were absolutely not true. I had written a past about myself that was just a convenient story.
All of us tend to do that.
Wherever you are in life, you sort of write a mental story to make the present make sense.
So reading those journals, I suddenly realized how clueless I really was about who I was and what I wanted to do…
One of the things I think is important is letting yourself be able to hit the bottom because if all you’re doing is avoiding the risk of hitting the bottom, you’re basically in self-protection mode—which is going to keep you from finding out what you’re capable of. For me, I had stretched myself as far as I could, to the limit of my endurance. I exhausted myself in the search for finding an answer. And I had been looking in the wrong place.”
6. Do What You Are: Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type by Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger
“The secret to satisfaction lies in doing what you enjoy most.
A few lucky people discover this secret early in life, but most of us are caught up in a kind of psychological wrestling match, torn between what we think we can do, what we (or others) feel we ought to do, and what we think we want to do.
The secret is to concentrate on who you are, and the rest will fall into place.” — Paula Tiegar
What are your favorite books for finding and researching your life purpose?