This morning I looked in the mirror and saw age spots. I totally freaked out until I realized the mirror was just dirty. According to my New Year’s Resolution, I was supposed to have lost thirty pounds by now and have buff arms. Instead, I’m pretty sure my muffin top just had twins.
I draw on my eyebrows.
Yes, I’ll admit it.
And that’s not as easy as you might think. If it’s early in the morning and you are sleepy, be careful, because you will draw them on crooked. Last week I drew one a good inch higher than the other. I walked around all day looking suspicious.
Sometimes if I stare at myself in the mirror for a really really long time, it starts to feel like I’m staring at a stranger – like I don’t really know that face in the mirror. That’s usually when I decide I’ve had enough wine.
One day, when I was little, I looked in the mirror and liked what I saw. And then I looked around and saw you, and decided you were better. And when I looked back into the mirror, I didn’t like me.
I wished I saw you.
So I put everything aside that made me me.
And I tried to find things that made me more like you. Look like you, act like you, have what you have, be like you.
Some things were easy, some were hard. And then even the easy things got hard. Because every time I tried to be you, I felt worse.
And when I got the things I wanted, it felt empty. Because they were really the things you wanted. And it was hard trying to get the talents you had, when the talents I had would have been so easy – the ones I was born with.
The more I tried to be you, the more I lost me, and the knowledge of how great that me really was all along. I just didn’t know that I was already good enough.
Just the way I was.
And now my gifts were buried and hidden. A light extinguished. A story untold. A song unsung. A whispered message that nobody got to hear. Sometimes we forget what it was we wanted. Or maybe we never even asked. Because it never occurred to us, that we could create the life we want.
Or we had this idea of how our life was supposed to go – of how we were supposed to be – supposed to turn out.
And we find ourselves in that place between the life we envisioned and the life we got – the pothole in the yellow brick road.
Stuck – knowing only that where we are, is not where we want to be. And we wonder – where do we want to be?
And sometimes we’re stuck and we don’t realize it. We’re too busy saying “I’m fine”.
Or we think the problem is out there instead of in here.
And then we look in the mirror and see that we have the power – that our choices brought us here, and our choices will bring us out.
That moment when we see with great clarity that the problem – or rather the solution – is in us – the only thing we can control. And so we look in the mirror and see – really see where we are stuck.
Not the part out there that we can’t control, but the part in here that we can.
We realize that when it comes right down to it, the problem isn’t that circumstance. Or that person. The problem is in us, and how we choose to react to it. And it is here that we gain our truest power – the power to change our life – the power to be accountable.
We face that moment where we decide whether to let this problem own us or that it’s time to stop and own this problem.
Will we let this break us, or make us? Knowing the choice is in here. The answer is here – right here – in the mirror.
And so today I ask you to take a look in the mirror – a good long hard look, and ask yourself what kind of life do you want?
And why aren’t you getting it?
And then one day….
And I began to see MY reflection and the power there to change my life, to rewrite my fairy tale, to choose a new ending.
I began to see the life I want – the life I deserve.
I began to see – ME
I began to see my talents and my strengths and my dreams – who I was meant to be. And I stopped looking around at you. And I stopped looking behind me at the mistakes I made, or the path I left.
I kept my focus on my dream and my vision, my yellow brick road. And sometimes it is hard, and I will take a peek at you.
I will want what you have. I will wish for the gifts you have been given. I will look in the mirror and look for you. And sometimes I will fall and get stuck, and think that it was a mistake to dream.
And I will stop. Look up. And find myself again – in my reflection.
So look in that mirror and tell me: Who do you see? Who do you want to be?
Dreaming big starts with knowing what you want.
I’m going to give you an assignment. No, you don’t have to do it – this is the internet, I will never know. But if you were in my program (motivational speakers like me love this stuff) I would ask you to create this fictitious woman based on the ideal woman you want to be. Money is no object.
There are no obstacles to this ideal woman. So what does she look like? Who is she? Is she married? Dating? Kids? No kids? A dog? A killer job? A killer pair of jeans?
Now get up and describe yourself to the group (okay, so you may not have a group – just pretend – or have another glass of wine and you might start seeing a group). Describe yourself as if you are truly this woman.
Tell us all about yourself. Tell us what you do, what you look like, where you live, the things you have, the things you do, the life you live.
In fact – we would love it if you want to share right here in the comment section. Why do this? Because it just might show you the life you really want if there was nothing standing in your way.
Who knows – maybe you are the one standing in your way! And if you get to a point where you think I can help, connect with me on my funny motivational speaker Facebook Page .
You. Your story. Make an Impact
Kelly Swanson is an award-winning storyteller, motivational speaker, published author and TV personality who is passionate about helping women harness the power of their stories to connect, influence, and get the results they dream of accomplishing. Laughing the whole way, Kelly teaches women how to master the art of connection through the power of strategic storytelling. You can find her on The Fashion Hero show airing Fall of 2017 on Amazon Prime.