I really feel like my dream of becoming an accomplished equestrian is at a standstill.Â As I mentioned before, progress with Nikki has been negligible to nil.Â So now I feel like I’m faced with the question of whether or not Nikki is really the right horse for me.Â That’s a hard decision and here are some ways to not make it (or any other decision):
1.Â Think about it a lot butÂ not in any focused manner.Â This will lead to #2:
2.Â BecomeÂ caught up and upset about the decision itself.Â Â In other words, worry about simply making the decision and / or the need to make the decisionÂ rather than wasting any brain space on actually figuring out the problem.
3.Â Do notÂ think up anyÂ concrete steps that wouldÂ help move you towards an answer.
4.Â Do not set any goals or time lines for making the decision.
5.Â Ignore it!!Â Â Hope that the problem will either simply go away or magically resolve on its own.Â “Good, Problem!”
6.Â Hide from the problem and resulting decision that needs to be made.Â Think to yourself, “I’m way too busy to deal with that right now.”Â That way, the problem will just get worse and the decision-making become harder.Â Or, if the problem gets worse, does that make the decision easier?Â Hmmmm . . .
7.Â Blame yourselfÂ for the problem which resulted in a decision needing to be made.Â That way, your confidence in your ability to make aÂ good decision will steadily decrease.
8.Â Â When thinking about solutions (possible decisions), place faith in solutions that have not worked before.Â Think, “Well, it might work this time, if only I tried a bit harder.”Â This goes well with #7 above.
Ahhh . . . I’ve been engaging in all of these.Â My kids got wind of the fact that I’m thinking about selling Nikki.Â They think its a very, very bad idea.Â I don’t know what to think.
Does anyone have any good decision-making tips?Â Have you ever been faced with a decision that has sort of big consequences? Â (O.k., so in my life, selling a horse and buying a new one carry “big” consequences in my mind at least.Â May not seem like a big deal to others out there.)Â How did you come to a decision?Â What was the outcome?
(Danelle left 8 Women Dream in March of 2010 and is still workingÂ on her dream is to become an accomplished equestrian)