Home Alone: Becoming Independent After Divorce

    I’ve been divorced for nearly a year. I bought and moved into my house about the same time. When I look back just five or so years, it’s astonishing how life has changed. And it’s not all related to the divorce. Five years ago, my two sons were still living at home; ages […]

The Quiet Mission of a True Hero

What a Hero is Not We live in a society where the loud and boisterous are rewarded and the quiet are marginalized. From the classroom where the extrovert child jumps at the chance to tell the teacher what he knows, to the boardroom, where the most vocal are given a stage to loudly thrust their […]

Sorry – Why Women Need to Stop Apologizing!

“I’m sorry.” It’s such a heartfelt couple of words. You hurt someone’s feelings? “I’m sorry” can soothe the hurt. Your friend is going through a painful divorce? “I’m sorry” can ease the pain. Your BFF falls and breaks her wrist? “I’m sorry” shows her your concern. “I’m Sorry” is a Bad Habit But there’s a […]

Mother’s Day: What She Really Wants… by Age

Happy Mother’s Day! For many of us, entering midlife means being pushed into a whole different lane of travel. It’s the surreal experience of having not just children, but grandchildren as well. When I became a grandma a year and a half ago, it was a beautiful, amazing, and life-changing experience. The time from then […]

Online Dating: Observations from Mid-life

I’m certain of one thing; I will not be in the dating game for a long time. But I’m a single woman, for the first time in 30-years. I’m entering mid-life as a single unit. So, many of my friends are cautiously broaching the subject with me, and it is on my radar. What was […]

Dating and the Midlife Flirt: Did I do that?

  The moment I became single, the strangest thing happened. Suddenly, men were paying attention to me. It’s like I unknowingly sent up a weather balloon with a neon arrow pointing at me that said “Come and get it!” I was married for 30 years, and I swear, I never once got flirted with. But […]

Bedroom Design – on a Serious Budget

  A big part of my starting over at mid-life adventure has been remodeling my new (old) house. In fact, it’s become a metaphor for my life; doing one small thing at a time, one step at a time – until I’ve created something new, something beautiful. What’s challenging though, is doing it all on […]

The Financial Realities of Divorce After Midlife

I’m a writer. I’m a thinker, a creative. I have a friend who is a CPA. She’s logical. Numbers are her thing. We make a good pair, Renee and I. There’s never anything to argue about. I know that if numbers are involved, she’s right. And vise-versa. But reality is that I can’t live with […]

Our Mentors: The Chaplain Threw a Brick at me

Our mentors, part II: Last week as part of my dream story about starting over at mid-life, I wrote about my very special friendship with my mentor, bestselling author,  J.A. Jance. Judy and I email periodically just to catch up with each other. She’s a great supporter of my writing. I’d been struggling with the […]