Is There Enough Excitement In Your Life

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It’s that time of night that I have to get my thoughts into gear, write something about progress, or lack of, and write about dreaming. I sit here wondering, again, what the heck am I going to write about?

Where are my dreams?

What makes me happy?

Not getting old, that’s for sure.

I think I’m experiencing mid-life crises. (Wow, I didn’t think I’d go there but here it is, as thoughts jumble out of my head) I hate it. I don’t like getting old. I want to be young again. To be excited about what’s to come. Instead, I see my skin sag, my energy subside, and my memory slowly deteriorate. Yuck. Besides watching my children experience life, I can’t find anything else to be excited about. Things are interesting for sure, but excitement?

Where’s that?

And how much excitement do we need? How often? How much should be expect?

What’s more pathetic is that I can’t even think of what would be exciting. Jumping out of a plane? Hang gliding? Meeting new people? Going somewhere? I have no idea. Maybe nothing. Maybe the exciting part of my life is over and I’m just in parental mode. That’s scary.

This was VERY exciting. The guide drove us on the sand dunes at least 80 miles an hour. Have to do that again for sure!

I’m working on my New Year’s Resolution thoughts. Trying to find some excitement in 2010 will be on the list. And positive excitement, no negative drama please;)

I’ll let you know if I find anything.

On another note, Christmas is a-coming fast!

I am ready.

We have communicated with our Japanese exchange student so we know her name and age. She is 13 and has never been to America before. She’s very cute. We’re not sure about her English skills yet, but we will find out soon!  She is arriving on the 23rd. We’re all a little nervous or apprehensive about the experience, but that’s just what it is: an experience.  I have no expectations about it other than finding a little more about Japan.

She wants to find as many differences from Japan as she can and see as much as she can.

Maybe we will find some “exciting” things to do;)

More next week.

Have a wonderful holiday!


(Kim has already accomplished her first big dream by traveling to New York with her teenage daughter June of 2009. She lost 20 pounds and overcame her intense dislike (do we say fear?) of flying to accomplish that dream. She rotated off the blog in February 2010, but still hangs out with 8 Women Dream.  You can find her in the comments section)

  • Rachel

    Interesting thoughts. I have to say that while joy is certainly a goal for me, excitement isn’t. I guess some people find that hard to understand. But I’ve had enough excitement in my life. I’ve never enjoyed fear the way some people do, and that’s part of it. Even when I was young, and I liked the feel of speed on my bicycle, I think I wasn’t aware of the danger I was putting myself in — not quite in control of the bike. Once I grew up enough to realize it, I quit riding that way.

    I like things to be calm and stable. I think life is full of enough risks all by itself, and while I try very hard not to shrink from them, I feel happiest when I’m secure and loved. So Remy, what I can’t tell is if you miss excitement, or if you’ve just learned it’s not what you need to be happy at this point in your life?

    As for you, Kim, you’re working toward a trip to a foreign country with a completely different culture, right? That sounds pretty exciting to me!

  • Pat Backman

    Kim, I am a relative of Cathy’s and have to respond to your note. You do not grow old by years, you grow old by thoughts and actions. Growing old is one of the most wonderful things we can experience. You have the wisdom to look back and the wisdom to look forward. It’s all up to you. Maybe you just arn’t there yet??? Ever think of that??? LOL Sometimes we just feel older than we really are. Age is something that we all have to contend with. Now it depends on how you live with it. I like to think that I am looking at every day to see what it is I have to experience that is new and different. The excitement comes from that. It also comes from the new people we meet. Do we allow ourselves to be excited??? or not. Do we go forward or do we withdraw into the shadows??? Life is out there, do we want to take the bull by the horns and go for it—or do we just want to sit back and say, I don’t want to get out of my comfort zone.
    Hope you decide to go for it—it’s sooo much more fun

  • Remy G

    Kim – Ive been sitting here thinking on how to respond to this – for some reason I keep getting stuck.

    For me, excitement as a ‘feeling’ has changed over the years. I’m not too sure how to explain it. I think as I got older, and more protective, more worried about how others saw me, and my incredible responsibilities as a single mom, my need to feel and look “in control” prevented me from feeling pure joy and excitement, so things started to feel kinda flat, neutral, not really peaks and valleys just flat. Not sure if that makes sense.

    I think I chose that the photo on my profile, when I was 5, cause that was a time of fun for me – and don’t get me wrong, there are times now that I can get excited, like watching my son grow up and all that goes with that – but I think it feels more like pride in him, my home, the business I’ve built, the people I’ve helped…than being excited.

    I don’t know if I just made it worse by…but I guess the long way around to say, you are not alone, Kim and finding excitement is certainly a goal we can all look to for the coming year. thanks for your honesty and questions to think about!


  • I´m with Cath – I plan to be jumping out of airplanes as a Grandma someday! ;)

    Having kids is one way to keep life full of adventures and stay young I think… Let your girls continue to remind you of all the joys in life as they live their dreams and explore the world… Maybe something they do, or one of your trips together, will help you find the next dream and source of excitement in your own life! (You never know what will ¨click¨for you… and life can be exciting at any age – just keep reaching for new dreams and adventures!).

    I´m excited for you as you move forward with your dream by hosting a Japanese exchange student too. Will be fun for her and for all of you to learn from each other – and I bet learning more about Japanese culture will be a catalyst for you wanting to move that dream forward even more quickly…

    Anyways remember during the holiday season (and always!) that you are beautiful and gifted and part of a loving community of women that wants to see you find and live ALL your dreams… We´re here cheering you on Kim!


  • Catherine

    You know …

    You dreamed of traveling and you started by going to New York, and now this exchange student is coming from Japan – another place you want to visit. So I think your dreams of travel are beginning.

    I don’t fight growing old. To me it’s like fighting the wind in a Hurricane with a broom – it’s futile.

    And I wouldn’t go back to being young for all the money in the world. Guys in their 20s – ICK. High school – ICK. Junior high – bigger ICK. Before that – no power – no money.

    My life started at 35 and just gets better. Are their challenges? Yes? Have I changed physically? Oh hell yeah. But I still would not look back. I love looking forward and plan to be one of those 96 year old ladies with a million wrinkles getting ready to go sky diving.

    But then I was never happy when I was young and breathtaking and I look at the unhappiness in so many “beautiful” young people and know it’s not the answer.

    Finding something you can give of yourself 100% works well for me.

    And having a great love affair could be the other … ;-)