How One Riding Lesson Can Make All the Difference

jumping brenda dollDo you have a few things that just nag at you?

Things that you know you need to take care of, you’d be happier if you took care of, but you just don’t?  Maybe you don’t know what to do about “the thing”.  Maybe you know what to do but taking care of “the thing” involves some uncomfortable decisions or discussions.

That’s the point I have been at with my dream of becoming an accomplished equestrian.  My dream had turned into a nagging, ucky “thing”.

As any of you who have been reading this blog regularly know, for a long time now I haven’t known what to do about my riding and my horse, Nikki.

The more I thought about it, the more I began to know that I was in need of a new trainer.

That was the uncomfortable decision and discussion involved in solving my nagging “thing”.

The thought of changing trainers was so uncomfortable to me because, in particular situations, I am loyal to a fault.

My riding instructors are one of those situations.  Through all of my pink hair, black hair, class cutting, talking back to teachers, hanging out in Hollywood teenage rebellion, my riding instructors have always been spared that side of me.

Why?

I have no idea.

I’ve been with the same trainer all of the 12 years I’ve lived here.  And, I’ve learned some things.  But, its been clear to me, an evil nagging thought in the back of my mind, that its time to move on.

But where?  Oh Where? Was I ever going to find another trainer?  And then, one day, I opened a magazine (I think I’m repeating my earlier post here  . . .  sorry) and saw an ad for Phoenix Farm.

I had my first lesson with a horse trainer last Wednesday.

I rode Sam, her horse who is retired from competition.  Lovely! I rode!  I wasn’t terrified!  Sam didn’t go bucking across the arena in fear (real or pretend – horses are great pretenders, did you know that?) when the trash truck went by!  And, most importantly, Heather said I’m not a disaster who doesn’t deserve to be on a horse.  Yea!

We have a plan mapped out.  The next step is going to be for Heather and her husband, John, to come out to my place to ride and evaluate Nikki.  From there, we’ll make a decision on whether he’s going to be workable for me or if its time to cut my losses.

For the first time in a very long time, I’m hopeful when it comes to my riding.

Oh, I was even very brave and called my current (well, now past) trainer and had “the discussion” with him.  He was totally fine and in complete agreement with me that its time for me to move on.  We’ll still get together for all-you-can-eat BBQ together.  Yea!

We leave for LaCanada and the Rose Parade float on Sunday.  My kids are sick.  I’m a little bit sick.  So much for my plan of going into float healthy and well rested.  Most of my “float family” agrees that this “deco” week is going to be one to just slog through.  We’re all exhausted.

For all of you who have asked . . . our float, “Scissored Wizard” is number 63 out of 92 entries in the parade.  Watch us on TV!!  Check the website at www.lcftra.org for current pictures as deco week goes along.  I’ll be the one in the red Hawaiian hat.

OK, next week, I’ll be writing to you from float.  No more worrying about my equestrian dream until Jan. 5.

Its all float from here on out!

Danelle

Danelle left 8 Women Dream in March of 2010 and is still working  on her dream is to become an accomplished equestrian

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  • TC

    You do write well and you tell your story in an unfolding manner each week that is interesting to follow. Catherine says your horse is amazing. It would be good to see more photos of the horse and your farm.

    Go Oregon!

  • Veronica

    You are an excellent writer, you hooked me in right away with your beginning words.

    Things that you know you need to take care of, you’d be happier if you took care of, but you just don’t? Maybe you don’t know what to do about “the thing”. Maybe you know what to do but taking care of “the thing” involves some uncomfortable decisions or discussions.

    That is me!!!!! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings so that I can become aware that we are all so very much alike.

    With my broken computer it has been more difficult for me to get on line, but I just need to make it happen.

    Have a fabulous day darlin…

  • Rachel

    “Heather said I’m not a disaster who doesn’t deserve to be on a horse.”

    Wow, you really had yourself stressed about this change, didn’t you? I know the feeling — sometimes we worry about the most ridiculous stuff.

    “Oh, I was even very brave and called my current (well, now past) trainer and had “the discussion” with him. ”

    Good for you! That had to be hard, but now you are past the hurdle and ready to move on to the better stuff. I’m so glad for you :)

  • Catherine, Site Admin

    Wow how wonderful for you. You sound great even though you are sick. It must be that dream coming true thing.

    Good luck in float land. I’ll be thinking of you over the holidays and will be sure to watch for your float.

    Cath

  • Remy G

    Danelle, what is so exciting about this is that you took action. We can all mill around in the “uck” as you say, wondering if we’ve thought this ‘thing’ all the way thru etc. It sounds like some of your worries or fears about talking to the old trainer about leaving and getting on another horse were not as bad as your mind and heart had created. And the FLOAT! good luck! we will be watching on TV for you and the team. And next year, I’d love the challenge of shooting the process as the float all comes together. But we’ll talk about that next year….lol. Travel safe and hope everyone gets well. Rem