Every woman that walks through our studio doors has a secret (or not so secret) part of herself that she automatically criticizes. My job is to drown those thoughts out long enough to have a blast taking pictures. We don’t just do makeovers with hair and makeup. We try to makeover how you talk to yourself. But what can our readers at home do when the negative voice is louder than the positive?
Get a self-esteem girl crush!
We all have that friend who seems to glow from the inside. She rocks her imperfections. If she complains about her body, it doesn’t stop her from wearing a swim suit or going out in public with a pimple on her chin.
This woman is your self-esteem crush. There’s huge potential in fake-it-till-you-make-it.
Seriously. We had a pool party this weekend and I wasn’t super keen on seeing everyone while in my bathing (better than birthday!) suit. I’ve been called fat so it’s hard to walk around a pool and not think that everyone there is horrified that my chubby thighs are touching. (Inner thought:My thighs are touching!) But I held my head high and laughed inside when I thought about the comedienne’s skit about her thighs touching.
I got to visit with friends and play with the kids. In a pool. On a hot day. And it was perfect. My chubby thighs did not bring the world to an end. And no one said anything about them. Except me. Today. In a blog. For a lot more people than were at the pool.
This wouldn’t have happened many years ago. I used to talk to myself in awful ways.
In fact I said more damaging things to myself than any outside source. I had gained 100 pounds. Felt worthless and wanted to hide from the world. But I worked to change that. I chose to love myself, I tried to appreciate my imperfections. I started helping other women appreciate their bodies with imperfections and c-section scars and thighs that don’t touch and thighs that touch. I lost the weight.
So when I tell you to fake it till you make it, I’m telling you that even if you’re not perfectly where you’d like to be, you can still hold your head high.
This woman holds her head high and helps other women do the same. From the first moment her story broke, I wanted to meet her. She posted an unconventional before and after where her before shot was firm and toned and her after was softer. This woman is my self-esteem movement soul mate.
So get yourself a self-esteem girl crush and fake it till you make it. You can still suck your tummy in and wait to exhale until you get home. But make sure some smiles and laughs are in between.