This is a big challenge for most women to come to terms with during any weight loss journey. Some call it inspiration to put photos up of the type of body you want to aspire to.
Some call it torture to have images of a body type that is taking a while to achieve staring you in the face every day.
Keeping it real. Don’t compare yourself with others goals.
The hardest step in weight loss is to take it slow. As soon as you start focusing on what you want, it’s normal to start seeing everything related to that goal around you. With weight loss that tends to be people around you, at the gym, at work, and everywhere.
Everybody reacts to a dietary change and fitness differently. My pushups may make different muscle changes on me than your pushups do on you.
But it’s really hard to remember that when someone lost twice as much weight as you did in the same amount of time.
We have all had those moments when the comparisons become a negative thought:
Why can she lose weight so fast and I can’t?
Keep it sane. Don’t compare yourself with others weight loss paths.
When these nasty ideas that our goals aren’t happening faster, better or more perfect than we expect we start to think what we are doing is not working. That can lead to some bad decisions.
- We stop what has been working at a slower pace and go back to bad habits.
- We try something new, but not always a healthy solution.
This happened to me when my weight plateaued four times in the year it took to lose 80 plus pounds.
Each time I knew how to get past the plateau. Each time I questioned whether the work was worth it. Each time I decided to get back on course and continue the path to keep going.
It took FOREVER! At least that‘s what I thought when I was in it. A couple years later and it really doesn’t seem that long at all.
Keep positive. Support yourself and congratulate others.
Yes, that newly fit person you met at the gym just told you she bought jeans in the single digits. Maybe that’s been your goal for a while too.
We cannot tell by looking at someone at the gym what their metabolism is doing, what drastic diet they might be trying, or what supplements they are taking.
Congratulate her! You’ve been sweating right there along with her, and who better than you knows how hard it is to stay motivated.
All we can do is look in the mirror and ask what we are planning on doing today. Then stick with the plan.
Celebrate achieving small goals of your own and keep your eye one the ball. There are set backs no matter what we are trying to accomplish.
It’s been 2 years since I reached my weight loss goal, and even now I’m struggling with a weight fluctuation. I can pinpoint the decisions I made that led to those pounds finding their way back on my body. And I know looking at someone else who is still on track and beating myself up about it will kick off an avalanche of negative decisions.
Keep going. No matter what.
There is an amazing thing I’ve learned by being a fitness coach and reminding others to don’t compare yourself with others. Your encouragement can stick with someone when they need it most.
The best thing I heard last week was a client mention she was about to not track a “cheat” meal, but heard my voice in her head to “Track everything. It’s a motivator for the future and learning from the past”.
It takes a lot to go up to a friend, or even better a stranger, and offer them a compliment. A real, heartfelt compliment.
It also takes a lot to accept one.
I have a confidence challenge for you this week: Look in the bathroom mirror and tell yourself “I love you”. Share in the comments how this felt. I’ll share my experience with you in detail soon.
Go get your fit on
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