Fitness Dream: Annoy your Friends by Focusing on Getting Fit

The following two tabs change content below.
Heather’s dream is to share with the world her success at becoming healthy after age 40. Heather lost over 88 pounds through changing her diet and incorporating exercise into her busy life. She would like to take what she has learned about becoming fit after 40, and using her Metabolic Training Certification to help others struggling with weight issues mid-life. Heather’s post day is Monday.
If you aren't sure how to comment on this story, click here.

Latest posts by Heather Montgomery (see all)

Do more of what makes you happy.

Do more of what makes you happy.

Do you find yourself annoying your friends with your fitness dream? Dream pursuit can have a negative side effect of making you bad company. When you work on your fitness challenge with laser focus you may lose your ability to talk about anything else.

Annoying your friends takes time, and you may start noticing this as early as 3 months into your dream pursuit.

Good news. This isn’t the over-cocktails chatter that girlfriends will do to catch up on each others lives. Instead the struggle shows up when confronted with the basic question of “How are things?”

The easiest way to know if you have official annoyed your friends is that they no longer ask this question.

Try not to take it personally. This isn’t a bad thing, just a sign of where you are – focused on your dream. When you are deep into living and breathing your dream, day in, day out, it’s like wearing blinders.

Laser focus on our fitness dream is amazing. But is there a downside?

With a health and fitness dream this shows up in interesting ways. I get up super early in the morning. Even on weekends. During the week my day starts at 5:10 a.m. and I am out the door by 5:25 to teach a bootcamp session and motivate a group to kick butt with a 30 minute workout.

I’m typically back home by 6:45 and depending on the day, am quickly fitting in a run before I start my official work day. If I didn’t work out that morning, I’m at the gym at lunch or after work for training.

This usually means my late night pals really get amused when I start nodding off at 10 every night.

It also means that my fitness challenge “How are things?” conversations typically include:

  • Information about my latest training (insert looks that indicate I am insane)
  • The next race I’m signed up for
  • Any current injury (lack of sympathy is typical)
  • My lack of energy to do anything else
  • There may even be the occasional update on my immediate family

Please don’t take this to mean I have no other interests.

Just a bit focused on the things that drives me, gives me energy, and makes me happy. Occasionally this means letting go of distractions and paring down my schedule in order to get to work on the dream details that will take me to the next level.

If you notice a decrease in communication from friends when you get your dream on track, give yourself a break. As with change in anything, time to adjust may be needed.

What changed in your life once you started working on your dream challenge? Share in in comments – here to help.

Go get your fit on – Heather


  • I think that there are only so many hours in a day and fitting in your dream while working full-time, commuting and living life with a partner and child (even when the said child is in college) is a lot to pack in a week. It just means that when you see your friends you live in the moment. I paid so much attention to each moment when I last sat with you in Starbucks that I can pretty much recite it minute by minute. I am still in love with the dog that pushed open the front door and came in to say hi to everyone. Pursuing a dream has taught me to live in this moment and be grateful for it. As time goes on I practice it more and more. I see your friendships expanding as you turn to working out with friends and working on projects together. So much more meaningful…don’t you think?

    • Completely Cath – I love how much sharing we packed into our crazy busy schedules. Granted, there’s a tongue-in-cheek attitude for this post, but living in the moment makes all the difference in connecting with anyone. And we need another date!