The Secret to Teaching Women How to Feel Beautiful

Beautiful custom dress by The Secret Boutique makes women feel beautiful

My beautiful custom dress by The Secret Boutique

It’s no secret that women want to feel beautiful.

From an early age we learn that if we are pretty we are more likely to succeed in life. We’ll snag good husbands and get good jobs if people like us. Sometimes the message is straight forward such as being voted prom queen and other instances it is more subtle like games on the playground.

One of the deepest insults children throw at each other is calling someone “ugly” or “fat”.

Many women carry wounds from early childhood into their adult bodies.

That’s why I do the work that I do. I have the same voice that criticizes my body and tells me I’m not beautiful. The voice tells me if I’m not perfect then I must be ugly. As I work through my own issues I’m better able to help other women work through theirs. When I find another person as dedicated to empowering women, I geek out a bit.

Beautiful custom dress by The Secret Boutique makes me feel like a million bucks

Beautiful custom dress by The Secret Boutique makes me feel like a million bucks

Let me introduce Jade Locke. She is the dazzling mastermind behind The Secret Boutique, a high end custom corset and dress business that makes women glow.

After reading an article by friend and writer Aimee Heckel, I knew that I HAD to buy one of Jade’s custom pieces to celebrate my 31st birthday. I had not lost all the weight I’d wanted and knew that if I could find the right corset I would have the ultimate birthday dress to flatter my transitioning body.

A bevy of beauties on my birthday. Say that three times fast.

A bevy of beauties on my birthday. Say that three times fast.

Since I had never had a dress made, I was nervous.

(My wedding dress had been a beautiful Indian lengha and didn’t require fittings.) Though I was nervous, Jade made the process so easy. She had adorable little note pads with the image of a woman’s body. Dimensions of waist, hips, torso were sketched onto the notepads. And the notepad forms are of average sized women!

Jade makes the dresses out of corsets and bustles. All from scratch and by hand. She makes sure that the corset doesn’t just nip you in at the waist, you can also move, dance, sit and eat in it. I have to admit, I was able to party with the corset on longer than anyone. There’s an art to creating the boning and shape. Jade is a sculptress of the female form.

Getting up can be a challenge when you're wearing a beautiful custom corset and bustle.

Getting up can be a challenge when you're wearing a beautiful custom corset and bustle.

Jade is easy to talk to, beautiful, and has a soft tone of voice. She understands a woman’s body because she has one. I was struck by how our missions aligned. We know so many women who need this negative inner voice silenced. Jade created a dress that accentuated my best features and minimized my flaws! She made the process easy and I felt like a million bucks on my birthday. I felt beautiful.

Jade understand the secret to teaching women how to feel beautiful.

Iman

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Iman is a photographer who, through her unique process of coaching and photography, can show a woman what other people see when they look at her. She is passionate about teaching other photographers how to live and be a professional and making change in the world. She dreams of changing the way women look at their bodies and how the world defines beauty. She also thinks being an instructor on CreativeLIVE would be incredible. Iman battles Lyme disease and shares her unique view of dreaming while fighting for her health. Her post day is Wednesday. info@imanwoods.com Iman Woods If you aren't sure how to comment on this story, click here.

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  • These photographs are amazing, simply amazing. They look like something from another time. Your posts mean so much to me. I love this, “Many women carry wounds from early childhood into their adult bodies.” This is so true, but sometimes this doubt comes from our own mothers who seek perfection in their daughters — and not from strangers or kids at school, which I think is a topic for another post, “How did your mother make you feel about your body? How you looked? What did she think about how she looked? How has this affected you in your adult life?…

    • ImanWoods

      Woah, Cath that’s quite a topic and great idea. Hopefully it can be cathartic to read and will help mothers teach their daughters to appreciate their beauty. Great idea!

  • LOVE LOVE THIS!! And it IS a most wonderful, beautiful dress…..on a most wonderful, beautiful lady!!

    • ImanWoods

      Thanks Karen!

  • Beautiful post, and what a beautiful gift you give to the world Iman. Thank you, from someone who really needed this message today.

    • ImanWoods

      Thank you, Kelly. All I’m really doing is saying what I need to hear myself. SO glad this resonated with you. Xo!