Getting Rid of Beliefs That Stop Your Dream Progress Once and For All

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Catherine Hughes

Director of the 8 Women Dream Project at 8 Women Dream
Catherine’s dream is to make 8 Women Dream the premier online publication for women looking to pursue their dreams. She is a published author, a freelance writer, and a guide for those who want their dreams to come true online. Catherine would someday like to be invited to speak at TED about her observations about her 8WD project inviting women to take a chance on their dreams. Wine was required... Catherine posts on Sunday evenings and fills in dream stories as needed. If you aren't sure how to comment on this story, click here.

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Getting Rid of Beliefs That Stop Your Dream Progress: What Others Say of Me Buy at ART.comLast week I wrote New Year Goals: The Heart of the Visionary for 1 Year and shared my plans to work through the book, The Heart of a Visionary during 2013 to help you build your online business, top blogging success or whatever your dream may be.

Every year just before midnight on the New Year I open one of my barbecues and light a small fire.

While the fire gains strength, I return to my living room to sit with a blank piece of paper and write down what I believe is holding me back from achieving my dream.

I write across the top of the page: Things I am releasing this year … Then I write all the things that I think I am doing that hold me back from acheiving my dreams.

When I am done, I burn the paper while forgiving myself for any perceived imperfections and send any lingering shame up with the smoke into the crisp night’s sky.

So it was really no surprise this week when I turned the page of the Heart of the Visionary book to the next exercise and found a blank page titled:

Beliefs I am Giving Up About Myself (you probably don’t need instructions for this one).

It’s a page to write down the traits or habits that are holding you back.

We can’t change what we don’t acknowledge.

To give you an idea of what beliefs/traits you may want to look at, check out the 25 most common characteristics of entrepreneurs (Source: Ultimate Home Based Business Handbook) and think about the opposite characteristic.  See if you need to give up a way of doing, or being, in your dream life.

25 Successful Characteristics

1. Do a dream /business that you enjoy.
2. Take your dream /what you do seriously. (<<— this is a biggy for a lot of writers /bloggers)
3. Plan everything.
4. Manage money wisely.
5. Ask for the traffic /business.
6. Remember it’s all about the visitor (if your customer is an online customer).
7. Become a shameless self-promoter of you /your dream.
8. Project a positive (and professional) business image (especially your website/blog).
9. Get to know your readers/visitors (as they will become your customers).
10. Level the playing field with technology (professional website/ cell phone /computers).
11. Have a team of like-minded, smart, positive can-do people around you.
12. Become known as an expert in your chosen passion.
13. Have a clearly defined unique selling proposition.
14. Invest in yourself and keep learning (get better and better at what you do).
15. Be accessible. (Make it easy for people to work with you /buy from you /contact you).
16. Build a solid reputation.
17. Sell /promote the benefits of you /your website /your product.
18. Get involved with your online community (or offline community). (<<— bloggers can be really bad at this)
19. Grab attention for your dream /your product /your business every chance you can.
20. Master the art of negotiations.
21. Design Your workspace /dreamspace for success.
22. Get and stay organized.
23. Take time off from your dream /your business /technology.
24. Limit the number of hats you wear. (Get help).
25. Follow-up constantly.

For example, if you aren’t currently managing your money wisely (#4) then look at what your beliefs are about you and money and place that on your “Beliefs I am giving up about myself” page. Maybe you can even hire someone part-time to come in and set up a bookkeeping system on your computer and have then stop by once a month to check on you.

I don’t think that you necessarily have to change a weakness, often times you just need to hire someone to take care of what you aren’t good at handling so that you can focus on what you are good at doing.  Writing down your beliefs about yourself as far as your dreams /business go allows you to look at where you are and what you need to let go of so that you can move to the next level on your dream journey.

It’s time to set the bar higher in your dream life.

Former NY Times Co. reporter, Rayne Wolfe once told me that she never misses a deadline no matter what she is writing about (or who she is writing for).  She never missed her writing deadline on 8 Women Dream.  I could set my clock by her posts.  Set the bar this high in your writing life, or in your dream life, and see what magic happens.

You’ll be amazed at how your belief of “I don’t have time, therefore I don’t make time” suddenly changes to “I have to do this right now therefore it’s done.

And watch your dream progress.

The Heart of the VisionaryThe author of The Heart of the Visionary is Shiloh Sophia McCloud. She is a visionary artist, author and teacher as well as a revolutionary entrepreneur and publisher.

Shiloh has owned galleries for over twelve years, and made over two million dollars in the sales of her art. Her original paintings are internationally collected and her product line is represented at galleries and fine shops throughout the United States. In addition to an extensive line of original sacred art and prints.