How To Ask For Help With Your Dream

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How To Ask For Help With Your Dream


As a product review dreamer you would think the concept of a strong team and collaboration would make me an expert on the concept of asking for help.

I don’t ask for help.

Yes, I do ask, but it takes me a really long time to get around to it. The trick for me is the constant internal fight of reminding myself that it is OK to ask.

I didn’t have the luxury of feeling that it was OK to ask for help when I was a child of a toxic mother. Asking for help then was inconceivable, and I learned early on it was better not to risk it.

When you are dealing with ingrained patterns, on top of a self-described Type A personality that I finally admitted to having about 15 years ago, and an intense competitive streak – it’s strange to admit I still struggle with this self development problem.

Getting help for your Dream Big Challenge

This week I wanted to offer my experience with this particular item in the 8 Women Dream Dream Big Challenge. Every day when I log into DailyFeats and this challenge, this pretty blue stamp that makes my mind go blank every time I think of working it into my day.

Ask for help? The image shows a figure in water, and that is about the time when most of us finally get a clue and ask for help – right when we are drowning.

My 8 Women Dream team has helped each other over the course of our dream struggles countless times. For the challenge we offer this sage advice:

“They don’t call it a “dream team” for nothing! Keep your dream support close and !askforhelp when you need a dream boost.

The DailyFeats description has a lot to offer:


Help! If it weren’t cool, the Beatles wouldn’t have sung about it. It’s always acceptable to say (or sing in British accent): “Help me if you can, I’m feeling down. And I do appreciate you being ’round.” In fact, you don’t even need to be feeling down. Sometimes you just can’t do something by yourself!

Knowing your limits isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength. Asking for help with a problem is a lot more responsible, after all, than risking it all on your own.


Ask and you shall receive. Whether you need assistance opening a jar of spaghetti sauce or finishing a tough project at work–reach out to someone you trust, and promise to return the favor.

Helping others is so much easier

I have always jumped at the chance to help others. No matter what the issue, concern, or need was. And when they wanted to help, because I do get offers, I typically say “no, thank you”. Usually this happens without even my even processing it as my own knee-jerk response.

This is a tough part of my dream challenge. Anyone should be able to ask for help. I have asked mentors, successful people in my field, for help with difficult decisions or direction on strategic concepts. But asking for help with a simple “Is it A or B” decision? I thought I might be a waste of someone’s time.

Like most dreamers pursuing a big dream we run into the opportunities for self development when we are least expecting it.

I’m at a stage now in my projects that technically, there is no help that I currently need. I’m not covering, I promise.

But I know the next stage will need feedback, and I’ll have to ask my trusted dream team for help. I know I will get unconditional support all around.

I just have to get past my own hesitation… and ask.

When was the last time you needed help, and purposefully didn’t ask for it?

~ Heather

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  • Cath

    I am funny about help and when I want it … or even asking for it.  I’ve always been a “I’ll figure it out myself” girl.  It’s easier for me to help others… but occasionally I do ask the dreamers for help.  

    • Really? I never would have guessed that :) I totally know about “figure it our for myself” feeling. Thanks for asking when you do!

  • What do you think? Is it easier to help others than ask for help on your own dream? My post this week tackles the Dream Big Challenge of asking for help. Share your opinion!