90 Percent of Dream Success Is Your Attitude

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Catherine Hughes

Director of the 8 Women Dream Project at 8 Women Dream
Catherine’s dream is to make 8 Women Dream the premier online publication for women looking to pursue their dreams. She is a published author, a freelance writer, and a guide for those who want their dreams to come true online. Catherine would someday like to be invited to speak at TED about her observations about her 8WD project inviting women to take a chance on their dreams. Wine was required... Catherine posts on Sunday evenings and fills in dream stories as needed. If you aren't sure how to comment on this story, click here.

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This week, while working on my dream I stumbled across the following quote online:

“The path to a dream is paved with sacrifices and lined with determination. And although it has many stumbling blocks along the way and may go in more than one direction, it is marked with faith.  It is traveled by belief in you and others but requires courage, persistence and hard work. It is conquered with a willingness to face challenges and take chances, to fail and try again and again.  Along the way, you may have to confront doubts, setbacks, and unfairness. But when the path comes to an end, you will find that there is no greater joy than making your dream come true.”

Is THAT preaching to the choir or what?

I am living my dream – but I am at the place within the dream -  the middle place – the place where I am walking down the path toward my dream – but the final outcome – or destination – is still out in the future.  My dream won’t come completely true until we 8 women have all achieved one great dream and I can begin to write about the experience of being the person behind the shiny curtain.

In the meantime, I am in the training camp part of my dream, where the greatest amount of time is spent building my dream by writing regularly, reading and attending Toastmasters meetings to learn the art behind the craft of public speaking.  My nights are filled with books on motivation, public speaking, success, blogging and weight loss.  My days are filled with my regular job, administering this blog, writing on my other blog, raising my son, meetings, walking, meditating and trying to stay focused on my dreams.

It’s a full plate.  No wonder I’m not having sex.  Where’s my chocolate?

How do I stay motivated to continue working at this pace from week to week?  Let me share a little of my life outside this blog and it starts with my attitude –

1.  I break my dream down to one day at a time.
Each day I ask myself: what small thing can I do today which will take me one step closer to my dream? Sometimes it is fixing something on the blog, or reading three pages in a book, or other times it might something as small as simply a walk around the block or eating a salad for lunch.

2.  At night just before I fall asleep I go over my day in my head and think of all the things I am grateful for.
I congratulate myself on any small steps I took toward my dream.  I daydream (or is it night-dream?) about my dream just before I fall asleep.  Part of my dream board is  stapled to the ceiling above my bed.  I stare at it just before I turn out my bedroom light.

3.  I write little motivational or funny notes to myself on post-it notes and place them around my home.
I write on my bedroom mirrors.  I write anything down that I find keeps me positive, or makes me laugh and I place it somewhere I will see it regularly throughout my day.

4.  I get out of bed in the morning by slapping my hands together and yelling “Today is a great day!” (I am not kidding).
I follow this by singing my way to work.  If it is a warm day, I roll down my windows as I drive and I sing loudly with the breeze and whatever song I can find that I half-way know on the radio – sometimes I make up my own lyrics.

5.  I find some time to meditate every day – along with spending time outdoors with nature.
I have a garden.  Sometimes I sit for 10 minutes among my flowers and listen to the sounds of my neighborhood.  My cat and dog often bug me for attention during these moments and I am reminded how much I am loved.

6.  Lastly when I start feeling discouraged, I think about my son.
I think about the legacy of being his mother and what I want him to say about me after I am gone.  He has sacrificed so much to take this ride in life with me and I want to prove to him that he can achieve dreams too.  If we 8 womendreamers can show the world how it is done – then we most certainly can teach him.

This week I started writing to newspapers, online magazines and Oprah – telling our story to anyone who has an email inbox.  I walked, ate chocolate, drank wine, visited a dreamer’s adorable home, walked in a photo walk, and met new friends, laughed and spent time with dreamer Heather that didn’t involve work.  I heard my son laugh and witnessed my ex husband being stung three times by a wasp.

All in all – a great week.

Just keep dreaming –


We’ve started to work on the 8 Women Dream Worldwide part of this project where we invite you to dream with us. Please go to our 8 Women Dream Worldwide page and consider challenging the world to help you with your big dream. Be creative – send us something fun. You never know – it could change your life!

Catherine HughesCatherine’s dream is to be a motivator and published writer. She is testing her theories on motivation with this blog and the seven other women who have volunteered to be a part of her dream project. Catherine also writes about her life as a mom at the blog A Week In The Life Of A Redhead. She would also like to be invited to speak at TED as the next Erma Bombeck. Catherine posts on Monday mornings.

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  • Heather, the e-commerce builder

    Thanks for sharing as always! We are all nuts and you are now crowned queen :)

  • Danelle, the equestrian

    I’ll echo Wendy: Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!! Your 6 steps of motivation are perfect. I sing in my car too – loudly, windows down (or at least the sun roof open).

  • Kim, the traveler

    I loved the end, funny!

  • Wendy

    That was a fabulous blog! You are doing an amazing job! Thank you, thank you and thank you. Your six steps of motivation are great and I laughed out loud at your ending to a great week. I am available to meet when your ready to work on blog.