The Genius Diet: Nutrition for the Non Cook

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Rayne Wolfe

Self-Employed Freelance Journalist
Rayne's dream was to write her memoir and found a global support community for adult children of toxic mothers. This summer she completed her book, which inclues her story of growing up with not one, but two super toxic mothers as well as a mosiac of mini-memoirs of women from all over the world who have created happy and peaceful lives despite toxic parenting. Her book, Toxic Mom Toolkit, is published on and Create Space. Her Facebook page Toxic Mom Toolkit, attracts over 250,000 per month and is a safe place to read or tell healing stories, exchange positive strategies on how to live with toxic parenting and lots of humor and resources. A freelance journalist, she currently writes a food & drink page for several Bay Area newspapers and is a private writing coach.

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The Genius Diet: Nutrition for the non-cook

Before I started writing today I cooked up two packages of bacon. Turkey bacon.

Next I’ll boil half a dozen eggs. Then I’ll wash and pack a lovely assortment of fresh seasonal berries.

I’ll check the freezer for a week’s worth of Van’s multi-grain waffles and my 60, 70, or 80 calorie frozen deserts and I’ll face the week with instant nutritional solutions to my poor eating habits. More likely than not, adding a few meals out, I’ll never cook a meal. And that’s okay.

That doesn’t mean I won’t have to-die-for sushi with edemame beans and Soyaki and think “Yum! This is delicious!” for the hundredth time. That’s perfectly okay, because I have finally admitted to myself that part of the reason my eating habits have been so poor is that I really don’t enjoy or have much talent for culinary endeavors.

The Bossy Nutritionist and I had a ‘Come to Jesus’ talk about cooking about five weeks into our 10-week contract. She kept giving me recipes that I never used. She gave me simpler recipes. Finally, she offered a recipe for hot lemon water.

Boil water, cut a lemon, squeeze. I mean, doesn’t all that make you tired, too?

I knew how to cook. I knew where the kitchen was. I had pots and pans and measuring spoons, but did I really cook?

In our very first meeting I confessed to The Bossy Nutritionist that I had different versions of me running various segments of my life. Some of the ‘me’s’ were grown ups and smart and, well, adult. They took care of work and bills and my husband. They walked the dogs and made sure the Christmas cards went out early. But when it came to food, a five-year-old me at a cocktail party was in charge.

I liked snacks. I liked food on small plates. I liked little piles of food. I could eat three dill pickles for a meal. I still put black olives on my fingertips. I still don’t like food to touch, or God forbid, liquid from one food to roll over and touch another food — especially if it results in the second food becoming soggy.


This is all stuff any mother can talk a toddler out of  – except mine – who was toxic and didn’t feed us like a normal mother.

And this is why, if you have food, weight, nutrition or eating related problems you would probably benefit from paying a nutritionist to design an eating program that you can love.

As I write, I know I have a long road ahead to develop adult eating patterns, but I’m happy with eating food that is nutritious and low calorie. I am losing a pound a week, which doesn’t seem like much, until you realize in a year you could drop 50 pounds.

But the biggest discovery for me, besides the fact that you can almost convince yourself that turkey bacon is nearly as good as real bacon, is that it’s now normal for me to feed myself and think that I deserve something really yummy and healthy and that I know how to put together simple meals that fuel my life.

Next Sunday: For Every Swing of the Pendulum – when you’re doing everything right yet gaining weight.


  • Heather Montgomery, Product Launch Dreams

    Whoo hoo! Congrats on the healthy weight loss. I am halfway to my own weight loss goal and totally understand the hard work – and sacrifice – it takes.

    My latest find for the non-cook in me? Glad steaming bags – makes fresh veges super easy and I don’t have to wait for the water to boil. It always takes WAY too long…

    – Heather

  • My biggest problem is that I will prepare those foods (boiled eggs, celery with soft goat cheese, apples etc) and then I don’t eat them.

    Congratulations on the weight loss!