Positive Thursday: Examine What You Tolerate

Positive Thursday: Examine what you tolerate

Happy positive Thursday!

Last week, I blogged about gratitude and thankfulness and shared 80 “little things” I’m thankful for; everything from vegan curry to making plans for the future.

In the post, Positive Thursday: 80 Things to be Thankful for I wrote:

Gratitude is something so important to keep in mind as we pursue our dreams — and in our day-to-day lives. One of my favorite quotes is this: Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have!

I was recently reading The Daily Love and the words resonated in my mind long after reading. The post read: We become what we think and what we think is greatly determined by who we spend the most amount of time with.

As I come close to my six-month mark blogging for 8 Women Dream, I’m looking back on what as stayed the same and what has changed throughout the half year. I’ve gone through many changes, but the one thing that has stayed the same and has affected my life are …

Changes – graduating college, moving across the country, starting my first job, moving into a new apartment, meeting completely new friends, starting over.

Pretty weird, huh? That’s a lot of change in a short amount of time. I’m sure there are many changes you’ve experienced in the past six months too! Although these changes are both big and small, there are aspects of life that have stayed the same. In the midst of life’s changes,

Constants – unconditional love, support, encouragement, happiness, maintaining my blog, safety, working out a few days each week, security, spending time with friends, joy.

These constants in our life keep us from being overwhelmed by the changes. One “constant” I want to touch on briefly is just how important it is to surround yourself with supportive, encouraging people. In turn, these people teach you to be supportive and encouraging.

The Daily Love article explained it so perfectly:

Do you spend time with people who are constantly trashing your dreams? If so, then after time, you begin to believe their doubt and their fear; not because their doubt and fear are true, but because we are creatures of habit and our subconscious mind begins to absorb what we hear, especially the feedback from people we love and spend a lot of time with.

And if you start to believe their doubt, then soon you will begin to take action from that belief in doubt and BAM — the manifestation of the belief of doubt becomes real. Not because it’s true, but because the belief of doubt became your dominate thought pattern and that thought pattern influenced your actions and your actions produced the outcome.

As you pursue your dreams, a lot of life changes will take place. Spending time with people who believe in your dreams and recognizing the constants in your life that keep you sane is absolutely vital. Now, I’m no expert – but I do know that women who respect themselves, love themselves and believe in themselves should not and do not settle. The above words are so true – it’s so important to examine what you tolerate.

You have the choice and opportunity to select friends who believe in you and your dreams 100%. You should be surrounding yourself with people who encourage you to not only be yourself, but be better and happier each day. During the ups and downs of life changes, don’t settle for people who doubt you.

Don’t tolerate negativity, rudeness or insensitivity.

Positive Thursday author Andra Taggert of Polish My CrownMay today be the day you remind yourself just how far you’ve come in the past few days, weeks and months.

May today be the day you surround yourself with people who love you, support you and believe in you. And in turn, you love, support and believe in yourself.

May today be the day you tolerate only the best. The day you choose to not settle.

Enjoy your Thursday – and please share with me how you deal with the changes and constants in life.

Thanks! xo

Andi

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  • “surround yourself with people who love you, support you and believe in you”

    It took me a while to learn this lesson in my life and it made a huge difference once I took action to put people who I could love and trust with my dream in place around me.

    Thanks for the wonderful post – H

  • Lisa

    Congrats on all the amazing and exciting changes in your life over the past six months Andi ~ and loved your list of the “constants.” Love, safety, joy, this blog :) (and the workouts! I need mine a few times a week too!).

    Definitely a great reminder to be careful about who we spend our time with and share our dreams with ~ There is a great quote about how we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. So let’s spend our time with amazing, loving, encouraging people!

    That’s just one of the reasons I’m so grateful for this amazing team here at 8womendream. Love you all! xoxo

  • Remy Gervais, Top Photographer

    i agree, very lovely and important post! My grandpa used to say “every day is great – some days are just greater than others.” If you start with great, it can only get better…and we are in charge of that for ourselves. ox Rem

  • Catherine Hughes, Editor & Chief

    Such wisdom.

    I love this, “You have the choice and opportunity to select friends who believe in you and your dreams 100%. You should be surrounding yourself with people who encourage you to not only be yourself, but be better and happier each day. During the ups and downs of life changes, don’t settle for people who doubt you.

    Don’t tolerate negativity, rudeness or insensitivity.”

    But sometimes we misinterpret something as negative and when we look at it later we find the person or situation was actually to our benefit, or someone was trying to speak the truth and save us from going down a dead-end, but were just really bad at their delivery.

    I had a boss once who nit-picked everything I did for him. He was so negative and it was so stressful to be around him, but it forced me to meditate to keep myself on track. I survived 15 months before I transferred into another department that was more in line with what I was studying. He threw me this huge going away party and bought me these wonderful gifts. I was so shocked and moved and when he toasted me he started to cry.

    The next person who went to work for him would come find me and say that all he ever heard was “Catherine did it better this way and Catherine did it that way.” I had to laugh and I realized that what that boss was doing was actually showing (in his way) how much he cared about me and my work. He wanted me to be the best even though his delivery left a lot to be desired.

    Sometimes situations are not really how we see them and if we examine them closer, or trade places with the person we might see the view in a completely different way.

    Lovely post.

    Catherine