The Secret To Letting Your Dreams Age Well

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Heather’s dream is to share with the world her success at becoming healthy after age 40. Heather lost over 88 pounds through changing her diet and incorporating exercise into her busy life. She would like to take what she has learned about becoming fit after 40, and using her Metabolic Training Certification to help others struggling with weight issues mid-life. Heather’s post day is Monday.
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Happy Birthday to my fellow Geminis! On the entrepreneurial path, watching another year go by has several levels of impact. Least of all that moment where you yell “Yeah! I’m older!”.

A huge part of this is accepting your age, your kids age, you waist size, and your dreams progress. While putting down these do’s and dont’s I ran across this interesting site. Second Act is a publication of Entrepreneur with a focus for people over 40. Still adjusting to the fact that I am officially in that group, but the articles online cover everything from starting a new business after the corporate life, to health and fitness. It gave me some great ideas while I was mulling over the getting older thing.

Do this to help your dreams age well:

  • Recognize what you DID do: That massive checklist is bound to include a few ideas that are checked off. Pour a glass of wine, pat yourself on the back and enjoy where you are in the process.
  • Accept your age… dammit: Here is a classic that I love to beat myself up with. It typically comes up when I hear about a success story from a 20-something. I’m happy for them… really. I’ll get over it. Age didn’t stop Paula Dean – Not a bad act to follow!
  • Plan that next step: Yes, have that glass of wine, then wake up the next day with a plan. Take a small step immediately to get the motor running again.

Don’t do this if you want your dreams to age well:

  • Worry about that extra 10 (or 50) pounds you didn’t lose this year: Your dream probably doesn’t care that you aren’t a size 6 anymore. Although I would love to see single numbers in my dress size again, it’s not impacting the dream I’m going for. I’m not doing cardio anyway – It can’t hurt.
  • Beat yourself up or ‘where did the time go?’: I was reminded how important this is when my son showed up with his latest grades. I’ll have to take some of my own advice in this case “there’s no such thing as time travel. Just do the work NOW.” Coulda, woulda, shoulda can kill the mood.

Need another reminder of creating a second life after 40? One of my favorite inspirational coaches, Barbara Sher, has some great tips in this great video.

Birthdays come by every year, whether we want to deal with them or not.  What are you trying to accomplish before your next aging celebration? Share in the comments…


Heather’s dream is to have multiple streams of income, starting with launching an e-commerce website that showcases her couture jewelry, which are crafted by her. You can find Heather online at For Your Adornment and Twitter And Beyond Dot Com. She also teaches Social Media tactics for business, besides being CEO of her own web design company. Heather’s post day is Friday.

  • I’ve enjoyed your posts for some time now since we are in a similar profession.

    I read something by Patrick Fanning and Matthew McKay that I like to apply to “Shouldcasting”: “Since most beliefs and rules (“shoulds”) are formed in response to needs, they have nothing to do with truth or reality. They are generated by parental, cultural, and peer expectations and by your needs to feel loved, to belong, and to feel safe and good about yourself.”

    If we don’t complete our “shoulds,” we judge ourselves to be a bad and weak person, and sometimes beat ourselves up with shame. Not only do we hold ourselves accountable to our own crazy-high expectations, we sometimes project our crazy-high expectations onto other people so we quit nagging ourselves.

    Sometimes is is a good practice to write all our shoulds down before going to bed and lock them in a desk drawer and forget about them. It will probably be the best nights sleep you ever have.

  • Love this. Love her. She is my inspiration. Thanks for the reminder!

    Some of my favorite quotes: “And our dreams are who we are.” “Imaginary obstacles are insurmountable. Real ones aren’t.”

    Happy Birthday.