Positive Thursday: When Dreams Take Off Do Not Look Back

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Don't look back

It’s one week until I’m flying to my new home, my next chapter of life, my dream.

Thank you so much to everyone who read and commented on my post last week Complete Your Circle of Influence. In the post, I explained just how vital it is to surround yourself with people who encourage, inspire and motivate you.

They not only support your dreams and future endeavors, they support you.

In the post I wrote:

Those in your circle of influence speak the truth in love.

They will tell you when they are concerned, why they are scared, what is upsetting. They are realistic. The people YOU CHOOSE to place in your circle of influence not only give you encouraging pep talks, but they voice their concerns and fears.

It’s not out of fear, it’s out of love for you and your future. Embrace their advice. Take it in and evaluate it. Value their opinion!

And today, I am especially grateful to have my fabulous mom in my my circle of influence. I’m just going to be honest with you – it was harder to leave my college town and community than I initially thought. It was okay at first because when I moved out, everyone else was leaving for spring break so I didn’t feel like I was missing anything.

This week school started up again so I am seeing the Facebook posts, the tweets, etc. and was feeling sour.

“I’m so jealous all my friends are all together,”

“I just wish I could do fill-in-the-blank with fill-in-the-blank right now,”

“I wish I were still in college!” were thoughts going through my head and I was in a bad mood about it.

I kept thinking about what I was missing out on until my mom put everything in perspective.

I’ve been evaluating the things I’m missing out on graduating college early rather than count my blessings and the many things I have to look forward to! Rather than be jealous that all my friends are all together enjoying their last quarter of college, I need to be happy for them.

I also need to be happy for myself and where I’m at right now in life. It’s absolutely foolish and a waste of time to look back and wish I were in a different place or chapter of life.

I love the above image:

YOUR journey has molded you for the greater good. It was exactly what it needed to be. Don’t think you’ve lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And NOW is right on time.

The next chapter of my life is happening now. And I need to be overwhelmed with excitement rather than looking back on the last chapter. I need to be at peace in the present moment rather than constantly thinking about the past.

The twists and turns and ups and downs in life have brought me right where I am right now and that is exactly where I need to be.

My mom cheerfully reminded me – I can’t live in both worlds. I can’t be living in my past “college life” and also start a new chapter of life working in California.

So true, right?

Looking back on the past often deprives you of the joy in the present.

Looking back on the past – if not put in perspective – can often “freeze” you in time and not allow you to move forward with you life.

Looking back on the past can often make you view those experiences from a foggy lens and not see the big picture of life.

I’m not saying to erase all past memories. Instead, look back on the past with appreciation for how far you’ve come and how much you’ve grown. I value my four years of college and the experiences I had so much, but I need to make a conscious decision to not live in that chapter of life anymore.

It’s time to move forward.

courage to grow up

So here’s to stepping out of the past and into the present.

Here’s to continuing to grow, evolve and become the best person you can be. Here’s to enjoying the present and pursuing the future without strings attached to the past.

Here’s to stepping outside of our comfort zones. Here’s to you and the beautiful journey you’re on.

Here’s to courage!

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  • Brian

    Great thoughts from someone so young.

  • Remy Gervais, Top Photographer

    Andi, I am so THRILLED for you! I understand the conflict you are facing, and you will always end up where you need to be…One of my favorite lines in “You’ve Got Mail” is when Berttie says to Kathleen, “(leaving) is the brave thing to do, because you are daring to believe you could have a different life” –

    Not that I ever give advice, cause you are on your own journey – but my gift to you would be to remind you to stay in the moment, where ever you are…there are so many opportunities if we would just stand still for a while and listen. When I was in HS i was getting ready for college. When I was in college, I was preparing for full time work….there are chunks of time missing for me in my ‘memories’ because of not being in the moment enough…Travel safely on Wednesday, and I am looking forward to meeting you soon! xox Rem

  • It’s natural to cling to the old when being catapulted into the new and leaving college is sad — it’s the end of the era of hanging out with a bunch of friends on campus, checking out the guys . . .

    I remember when my favorite college house emptied of it’s inhabitants when they all moved out. It was three guys in a big old house and one of them was/is my dearest friend. They were done with college — two were moving across country and my friend was engaged. I was helping them clean the house up for the move and as we finished the cleaning, the first guy was ready in his car to drive out of state. I will never forget watching his car go down the street, then I burst into tears. All the wonderful, hilarious times spent in the house were over and we were all moving on.

    Joe is still my dearest friend. The next phase we all entered into were our first careers and wedding after wedding. I was the final holdout who did not get married until I was almost 31. They all had kids by then.

    But you are going to be in SF! Such a vibrant, fun, wonderful city. You will meet so many new people and you can go back on graduation and see all your friends together one more time . . .? Maybe?

    Change is not for the faint of heart ;-) You go girl!


    • Thank you Cath for reminding me of this – I am at a loss of words – your comment really hit home for me! Thank you , thank you, thank you. See you oh so soon!