5 Steps to Break Out of The Dreamer’s Comfort Zone

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When used to describe the owner of a business, a comfort zone defines their mental space of complacency; they get to a certain point in any kind of growth, and then just stop and level off.  This zone could be present for years, existing to protect the owner and confuse him with the belief that “complacency and stability” are the same thing.

What is inside the comfort zone?

Feelings of contentment, status-qua, no new opportunities, and yes, the big brother – fear.

Fear keeps us in the comfort zone and protects us from what’s outside the zone — things like new ideas, confidence, education, courage, and change.

So what exactly does that mean to “break out of your dreamer comfort zone”?

In my experience the process is pretty universal, believe it or not.

As dreamers, we have our own experiences of what it takes to go after what we want.

Most often, we start with a lot of excitement, hope, energy and desire.  Somewhere along the way, the actual work it takes to make your dreams happen will have to start…you know, the little, boring, un-sexy steps we have to take to get from here to there.

It can get overwhelming and cause us to take pause.  We get distracted, tired, or pushed off track due to what’s going on in our everyday lives – and from there, build the “comfort zone” to protect ourselves and our dreams.

We adjust to the status-qua, reduce our risk and maybe the worst feeling of all – we settle for less than what we want.

Here are 5 steps to break out the dreamer’s comfort zone

  1. Understand your own zone and why it exists  – yes everyone’s comfort zone is their own and yours is defined by your beliefs, perceptions and past experiences.
  2. When it comes to your dreams, where is it that you hold yourself back?  What do you specifically avoid, and why?
  3. Determine if the comfort zone is based on perception or facts.   Are your fears real, or just beliefs you have about the situation?
  4. Once you know where and why they exist, you can start to break through them – Admit that you cant solve for everything at once – pick one aspect of the zone, and then
  5. Take one small step towards your dream.  You may have many but take just one.

It may take a while to reflect on these questions, so give yourself time.  Journal your responses to keep track of your thoughts and comfort zone busting ideas.

Stand in the truth that there are people in the world who know more than you, and people in the world who know less than you. It’s not a question of who is better; it’s the realization we have an opportunity to learn from both.  —Remy Gervais

Until next photo,

Remy’s dream is creating opportunities for photography showings and public displays of her work.

  • Great post Rem – most of my fear is definitely in my head. Keeping it there is always a tough!

    • Remy Gervais, Top Photographer

      yea, lets drag that fear out and stomp on it !!! hope you are feeling better. xo Rem

  • Lisa

    Great reminder Remy ~ am pushing myself out of my “Comfort Zone” right now to be sure I achieve my big goals and dreams this year… It’s sooo easy to get lulled into staying where we are because it’s a comfortable groove. And how will our lives change when we achieve those big dreams? Will I be able to sleep in on a Saturday? Sometimes I hold on tightly to my “creature comforts” and my autonomy, and while I value those things, I also want to live my dreams, even if it means stretching beyond what’s comfortable too…

    Love this too: “Stand in the truth that there are people in the world who know more than you, and people in the world who know less than you. It’s not a question of who is better; it’s the realization we have an opportunity to learn from both.” –Remy Gervais

    Absolutely ~ and we all have our own special gifts! So there really is no basis for comparison; it’s all about being the best you, the best me :)


    • Remy Gervais, Top Photographer

      You are such an incredible support of life Lis, thank you! Good luck with the 40 days of Lisa! Cant wait to hear about the raw diet experience… xox Rem

  • Just face the fear and do it anyway.

    That’s how I do it, and don’t be afraid to fly in the face of those who want to control your outcome. You are the captain of the only ship you will have in this lifetime – however long it is, so take it where you want to go — fearlessly!

    It can be uncomfortable, but if you trust that the universe is a friendly place that will take care of you — everything turns out okay in the end. We don’t grow unless we stretch.

    And I don’t know about you, but I want wonderful new, scary experiences — I don’t want to be a little old lady paranoid that everyone is out to get me, and I’ll stay safe in my comfort zone type of person. I want to be the one who is traveling to India when she is 90.

    Can’t do that without facing life square-on.


    • Remy G

      you are an incredible lead-by-example person! oxo Rem