5 Signs That Your Dream Is Becoming Real

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Earlier this week, with a lot of help and support from my friends at 8womendream.com, I created a 30-plus page book proposal and sent it to a literary agency.

Sounds simple enough, right?

A journalist with 2 cougarsAfter all, I’ve been a journalist for decades, writing this book for months and months.

I’ve been collecting readers’ stories via the questionnaire @ www.8womendream.com/got-a-dream-ask-for-help and turning those into short narrative chapters.

I’ve been blessed with a great chapter editor (thank you Terry N.) and nothing but support from my spouse and family. I’ve been inspired by everyone at 8womendream (especially our Fairy Writing Godmother, Catherine Hughes) and every single supportive comment left by readers has moved me forward.

I’ve got so much support and I appreciate it so much.

So, why did I have to suffer a complete freak-out, spazzy, dork-athon melt-down when I actually hit the SEND button?

It certainly didn’t help that as I composed possibly the single most important e-mail of MY LIFE, suddenly my screen gulped stage left tearing down my entire e-mail platform in the blink of an eye — TWICE!  (Would there be anything worse than to e-mail an agent without the attachment?)

My heart started racing but I didn’t scream. Well, I didn’t scream out loud.Green dream cup

No doubt my recent near death panic attack is just part of the entire follow-your-dream experience.

I’m a huge proponent of baby steps when pursuing a dream. First I go to the stationery store to buy pretty colored folders and pens. I have a special pale green Bakelite egg cup that holds my pencils and rubber eraser and it must be placed just so to the left of my laptop. I have a little saucer to the right on which my iced tea glass sits.

I sort of sneak up on any big writing project. I write in steady short bursts. Over time, the pages add up. I’m about 75 percent done with the book, so it was time to start looking for an agent.

Apparently, the agent part is the point where I totally freak out. Who knew?

But the meltdown episode also felt like I was learning something. I learned what I can put myself through when I’m making my dreams come true. And I want to share my thoughts about that with you.

Here are the 5 ways I know when a dream is becoming real:

1.  You declare your dream and develop a plan to achieve it .
2.  You stick to your plan despite obstacles (including your own doubtful thoughts).
3.  Suddenly, nothing makes more sense than asking for help and welcoming input.
4.  At big milestones you stare down your own fears.
5.  At points when there is no forward movement you keep the faith.

Writing a book proposal  is much harder than a really really hard book report. It took me about a week to get it done. Just choosing which chapters to include gave me nightmares.

No doubt as I cross my fingers and search for an agent, then for publishers, I will need focus like crazy to stay true to my dream — getting “Confessions of an Undutiful Daughter” on bookstore shelves.

Never mind that extended focus is NOT my strong suit. (My gym called today to remind me that I actually have a membership.) But I vow to do my very best.

The good news is I’m doing what I set out to do. I’m on track and accountable. And I’m happy despite shaking in my boots a bit.

Until next Sunday,

Bee Happy!

Rayne Wolfe’s dream is to write her first book Confessions of an Undutiful Daughter by the end of 2011. She completed her dream journey May of 2011 on 8WD after a year living her dream. You can find her at Toxic Mom Toolkit on Facebook.

  • Toni Schram

    Thanks for showing everyone how it’s done!

    Best wishes for the success of your book and to all those people who will see themselves in your poignant words and know they are not the only ones.

    Love ya-


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  • Rayne


    I know what you mean! Thanks for quacking me up!

  • Laurie

    What an accomplishment! Woo hoo to you. The agent thing is so crazy. When Toni and I were doing our movie thing, we’d go to these screen writing conventions and pitch and listen to experts and so on and so forth. We’d crack up when one person would say “you have to get an agent” and the next person would say “you have to have your work recognized before you can get an agent.” Next expert would say “you have to have an agent to get your work recognized.” Oh shit, whatever. This is what I now know….it’s syncronicity, things are lined up, you are ready for the avalanche, you have your ducks in a row and I must say Rayne, I can hear yours quackin’
    I’m thinking grand thoughts for you, L

  • Rayne

    Remy – I don’t know how we could do any better than the photo we already use that YOU SHOT on that sunny day, so long ago. I just love that shot. (Well, really, it’s the blond roots I adore so… so beautiful, so fleeting…) This week three professional photographers have offered to do head shots for me just to help me along. SEE? Anne Frank was right. People really are kind and want nothing more than to help others along their dream path. Color me grateful.

  • Thanks for the kuddos! It’s fun working on great projects. Yesterday Heather and I worked together on setting up an EBay store – that was interesting!

    It’s amazing what we can do when we have people around us who help us show up in our dreams. I’ve had such great feedback for my book – they want more of “my personality” in it. Do they really understand what they are asking for? ;-) lol!

    I notice each time we accomplish a goal towards our dream, we become stronger, and take more bold steps.

    Here’s to looking forward to holding your published book in my hands and reading it!


  • Remy G

    Rayne, this is fantastic! such an inspiration for those of us who are still on the rugged path towards our dreams. Good luck with the proposal! lemme know if you need more photos…:) xoxo Rem