How Do You Attract Men After Age 55?

Why after the age of 55 do you ask?

Because before the age of 55 attracting a man didn’t seem to be a problem for me at all. What happened? A slight weight gain, a sagging of the skin under my chin – “joules” is what my mom calls it – and the realization that I’m not 25 anymore.

I am being too hard on myself.

Being a women who has experienced a good share of attention over the years, I actually believed I would escape the sagging skin, and the graying hair. As my dream continues, we’ve talked about the many different places, and ways, to meet men.

We have even discussed what to do if we have shut ourselves off emotionally, and what it takes to open ourselves up to love again. But how do we find acceptance with ourselves as we grow older? And will the men we want, want us in return?

Will they love us as our hair becomes thin, course and gray – in several places. What if we become sick? What if we have to take tiny little pills every morning with our coffee? Here I am using that mirror again – can you tell? I’m chicken-boning myself – as I stare back at this image of me – older than the young, blond girl I once knew.

Why does the possibility of dating bring up these issues for us women?

I know there are young girls out there chicken-boning their beautiful appearance, as they get ready for going out tonight. They are standing there, looking at a beautiful girl and not seeing her – not seeing her for all that she is.

She’s only thinking – am I good enough?

Does it ever end?

Good lord people – I have grown children.

And here I am, noticing that after sitting for too long a period of time at the computer, I have these “oh my God” moments when I stand up – where every joint in my body begins to scream.

If this is what has happens at 55, what happens when I get to 60 or 65?

I did say that I picked dating, and falling in love again, as a dream – right?

Okay, breathe.

Feel your feelings and do it anyway, Veronica. Last week I was the maid-of-honor at my best friend’s wedding. You will be proud to know that I actually did some flirting and enjoyed myself. It was a great opportunity to step out of my comfort zone.

I felt attractive.

I allowed myself to just have fun.

Don’t faint.

At one point, I noticed that I was searching the crowd for a handsome, attractive man. I stopped myself and remembered my expectations -

Give me a man who is comfortable growing old. A man who has a slight weight gain, thinning hair, or no hair, or hair going gray. Maybe even throw in some joules to match mine.

I want a man who can find the same self acceptance with himself as I must – if I am going to land a really great guy.

I’m ignoring the Internet websites telling us that all older men like younger women. I look at the women here in 8 Women Dream and I don’t think you could find a kinder, more loving, more fun bunch of women if you tried for 30 years. Women like these ladies are a rare thing. Men should be lining up to find out more. I know there must be great guys out there. I just have to figure out how in the hell to find them.

Maybe I’ll flap my joules on Highway 101 and a kindred spirit will spot his future mate.

Me.

Perfect as I am after the age of 55.

Veronica

Veronica rotated off 8 Women Dream in December of 2010 after successfully completing 2 dreams.

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