5 Warning Signs It Is Time To Find Your Dream

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Catherine Hughes

Director of the 8 Women Dream Project at 8 Women Dream
Catherine’s dream is to make 8 Women Dream the premier online publication for women looking to pursue their dreams. She is a published author, a freelance writer, and a guide for those who want their dreams to come true online. Catherine would someday like to be invited to speak at TED about her observations about her 8WD project inviting women to take a chance on their dreams. Wine was required... Catherine posts on Sunday evenings and fills in dream stories as needed. If you aren't sure how to comment on this story, click here.

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Whatever your story, I see signs everywhere people like you aren’t living their dreams.

Yes, there really are signs.

You may not see them, but I do. I see them in your behaviors . . . because I’ve been there too. Sometimes I think we can be so blind to the signs, we believe the life we are living is the way it has to be. Or,We have numbed the pain with alcohol, drugs, or obsessions with cleaning or keeping our youth – anything – so we don’t have to recognize the signs our life isn’t working the way we once imagined.

5 warning signs it is time to find your dream –

1. Your life exists on drama.

Bullshit drama to be exact. I recognize the non-dreamer in the drama addict. This is the person who fills their life talking negatively about people behind their backs, in the hopes of pitting people against one another for a dramatic real-life play. This person is always mad at someone for some insignificant, imagined hurt. If this is you, you can recognize it by your lack of close friends, or the friends you have stopped speaking to, or who have stopped speaking to you.

This sign can also include parents who are too involved in their kids lives and dramas. It doesn’t matter if they are 16 or 36 – their dramas become your dramas and you get just as involved in it (and upset) as they do. This can all change when you go after a big dream. You will be too busy to notice the unimportant dramas in your life.

2. You hate your job.

We’re talking extreme loathing here. You wake up every morning dreading the day. You live for Friday night. You resent your boss, you hate your cubicle and you snap at co-workers who bother you with questions. You stay at this job because you feel you have no other options. Life is just one paycheck after another and nothing ever seems to change.

You may also resent your life because this job is your “duty” so you can make house payments, raise your kids, pay off credit cards, buy health insurance – whatever reason you feel you must stay and live a job you loathe. When you have dream goals and you are working them, work becomes tolerable. You begin to look at your “day job” as seed money or your “venture capital” for launching your dream.

3. You live in clutter and mess.

The floor of your car looks like the bottom of a filled garbage bag. Your clean (or dirty) clothes lay piled on the floor of your room, the foot of your bed, the floor of the bathroom, and you just don’t feel like dealing with it. You can’t walk a path through your home without tripping over something. There is no space on the kitchen counter. The sink is full of dishes. You feel overwhelmed and don’t care if it’s all a mess.

Going after your dream gives you confidence and moves you in new directions. You find that you crave organization so that you have the space to work on your dream. We recommend that you buy the book Throw Out 50 Things Clear The Clutter and Find Your Life. We highly recommend that you work through the book it to clear the space to make room for your big dream.

4. You are obsessed about being with the opposite sex.

You can’t live without a boyfriend or girlfriend. You hate being alone. You feel you are nothing – unless you are in a relationship. When you are in a relationship, you make the other person responsible for your every need – even your happiness. You don’t like it when your mate/spouse has other interests which don’t include you. You demand they be around you as much as possible.

Trust me when I tell you that you will be a much more interesting person to date when you are passionately following your dream. And what a better way to meet the opposite sex than to be out living your dream and bumping into them?

5. You are bored with your life.

You feel restless and bored. Maybe your parents pressed you to live a certain path in life, or you picked a life that you thought was safe, and now find it boring. Maybe your life has gone in a direction that you never wanted. You don’t remember what it is like to play and do the things you loved doing as a child. You stopped hobbies because they felt stupid, or you were too busy. You don’t even know what makes you happy anymore.

You will never be bored when you are working towards your dream. So many interesting things will begin to happen to you as you live your dreams.

If these signs sound familiar – don’t despair – there is a way out. But you have to find your courage. You have to face your fears. And you have to find what motivates you. You think you can’t? Is it any more difficult than the life you are leading now?

If you need some inspiration, Jack Canfield has some big dream advice in this video –

I also created an e-book to walk you through a way out of where you are – into a life filled with dreams. There are exercises to help you identify what you love; find what motivates you and explain the steps to bring dreams more fully into your life if you are ready to move forward.

Look for it in the right sidebar.

What have you got to lose? Because I believe you have what it takes to make your dream come true.


  • Veronica

    You make me want to expand and go for the gusto……I think I will add a dream and get my butt out there.

  • Oh. My. God. I can identify with at least half of what you described, and am currently seeing a counselor for depression. I so appreciate this article. Thank you!

  • Catherine, Site Admin

    First thing I recommend to people in this place while they wait for the ebook, is get out a piece of paper and write down everything about your life that you don’t like and want to change.

  • Great post – I think I most of the signs under control in some fashion.

    Now I need to work on the vacation to recharge and keep going!


    • Catherine, Site Admin

      You need a trip to Italy. Then you will be fine :-)

  • Brenda

    Hey Cath….Are you talking to me, are YOU talking to ME? Lol.

    Great post, can’t wait for the e-book. Hurry!!!!


    • Catherine, Site Admin

      I’m working on it as fast as I can. I just got my first editorial feedback, which I am fixing and then giving to one more person before it goes on the site. Thanks for your comment Brenda.

  • Remy G

    ohmygod. I’m slipping into clutter and mess. except for the car, cause its new. lol. I think I’m a bit depressed because of my injury, im sitting around alot, and inactivity creates more inactivity. I find sometimes that I dont care and I dont have energy for things that I used to care about, like a clean house. OK, HELP! lol cant wait for the ebook.

    • Catherine, Site Admin

      Temporary clutter is one thing and I just don’t see you living in garbage – anywhere!

      But I have seen young girls who are lost with the floors of their cars filled 10 inches high with garbage. I know it is a sign that they are unhappy, scared and overwhelmed.

      Having a purpose and a plan helps with all that and I know you will bounce right back as soon as that black cast gets off your foot!

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  • TC

    I am working through the editorial copy of your ebook and so far I think it is great and a great tool for figuring out the things we have lost touch with that make us happy.

    I look forward to finishing and see where it takes me.


    • Catherine, Site Admin

      Keep using that red pen and let me know! I look forward to your feedback.