Step Up Dream Girls: A Matriarchal Rebirth Is Happening

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A Matriarchal Rebirth Is Happening

I just read 8 Women Dream-girl Rayne’s post Daughters Dreams: Sharing Wisdom, and was moved to write about this Mother thing. I’m convinced our dreams are so easily squelched by toxic parents – even the ones that think they are doing the right thing.

My Mama Hazel liked to tell me that I smiled too much at strangers and should quit making eye contact with everyone.

We eventually made our peace and she was a great Mom, but I did leave home at 15. I was raised to get married – so that’s what I did, over and over and over again.

My Dad hated enthusiastic people and if you were into the arts or a creative sort, you were an A S S H O L E !

It’s hard to be a dreamer in that environment.

I laugh when I think of the reaction my Dad Elmer would have had if I told him –

Oh, yeah, now that I’ve been a massage therapist for 20 years, Pops, uh, I’ve realized how cool it would be to do some rap music.

I can just hear it.

He’s been dead for 15 years and I can still hear it, plain as day –

SON OF A BITCH, What in the hell is wrong with you?

Having raised 3 kids of my own, I realize now that that, was tough on a dreamy, creative, curious little girl like myself. One of my favorite lines in a movie, delivered by Keanu Reeves is in the film Parenthood –

It takes a license to catch a fish, but any butt reaming asshole can be a parent.

Bingo. Sad but true. That is why women are in line to heal the planet.

Because a matriarchal rebirth is happening, so step up girls and lend a helping hand.

I’m reading a book called Circle Of Stones. I’ve read this book several times and each time it seems more relevant. I love this quote, and It resonates deeply with me –

How might your life have been different, if, as a young woman, there had been a place for you, a place where you could go to be with women? A place where you could be received as you strove to order your moments and your days. A place where you could learn a quiet centeredness . . . to help you ground yourself in daily patterns that would nurture you through their gentle rhythms . . . a place where, in the stillness at the ending of a task, you could feel an ancient presence flowing out to sustain you . . . and you learned how to receive and to sustain it in return. How might your life be different?

I’ve been there for my daughters in a profoundly connected way, as well as many of my daughters friends, for support, advice, a ride to the clinic and last but certainly not least, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE.

Do you see the matriarchal rebirth happening around you?  Share your story in the comments below!

Keep on dreamin!


Laurie has several amazing dreams going on in her life at this time. She left 8 Women Dream in November 2010 to focus on Club B and her NIA business.

  • Mariska Smith

    Your posts always make me feel like I can do anything and I should be doing it – especially if I am a woman. Thank you for always making me smile.

  • Heather, the e-commerce builder

    HA! I can totally hear the conversations in my house around a “real” job and the “best” career. Now, I have to add a caveat that these were really conversations. I had a ton of support – once I was able to state my case on what makes me truly happy.

    That’s what it came down to for me and my siblings with our wonderful Dad. The support was there, once we cut through the concern he had of our being able to feed ourselves!

    Be happy dammit! – Heather

    • Lucky girl you are and I hope my kids say the same about me – bitch please ;-)

  • Rayne

    Can I get an Amen!? Amen!

  • Catherine, Site Admin

    “SON OF A BITCH, What in the hell is wrong with you?” lol

    I’m sorry but I think I just heard my dad yelling at my brother when he stumbled in the door at 3:30am at the age of 17. My father and mother had been up since midnight (his curfew), back and forth on the phone with the other parents of the three boys who were with him.

    I remember his yelling that woke me from a sound sleep. It still makes me laugh.

    But my dad’s yelling was all bark and no bite. Now my mother – she was the strict one. No son’s of bitches tho.


    • I think our dads were separated at birth.

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  • Toni Schram

    I think your parent’s views were commonplace in that era. They came from a generation of marrying, procreating and following the status quo.

    You, my girl, have broken that chain and have allowed your
    children to flourish with their OWN dreams and goals.

    Maybe you should write a book on how to really listen to your children and let them do what’s best for them and not what’s bests for Mommy or Daddy.

    Bitch please~