Making Adjustments While Keeping The Dream

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Heather’s dream is to share with the world her success at becoming healthy after age 40. Heather lost over 88 pounds through changing her diet and incorporating exercise into her busy life. She would like to take what she has learned about becoming fit after 40, and using her Metabolic Training Certification to help others struggling with weight issues mid-life. Heather’s post day is Monday.
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We all have ADD. At least a little.

I typically refer to it as my “shiny object” syndrome. You are rolling along, focused and accomplishing a ton and – OH LOOK! Shiny Object!

Your focus is pulled.

My focus had been seriously pulled this last week. But it is for a really good cause.

Let me back up to this past weekend. I think I fit 6 months weekends into 2 days. My parents “surprised” us for Saturday morning breakfast, Cath and I ran to SF to pick up the Bay to Breakers entrance packets, and then spent time ironing on the 8 Women Dream logo on the t-shirts.

Too bad it was too cold to take off our jackets to show off the advertising.

My kind of shiny object...

Meanwhile, my wonderful photographer husband was on Mare Island on a photo shoot until he got home at 12:30 am on Sunday. The same day as the Bay to Breakers.

If you can get up at 4:15 am, traverse Park & Rides, a bus trip into the city, flying tortillas, and a 7+ mile walk on about 4 hours sleep, the rest of the week should be cake, right?

Well Monday brought a very big change. My husband Ray started his new job. This is great news.

He was one of the many downsized and now re-employed that survived 2009 and lived to tell about it. I should be jumping up and down ecstatic.

How can I say this without sounding like a whiny, spoiled brat?

I miss having him around.

He was helping with the business tremendously, and will continue to do so, just not on such a large capacity. It’s not like we haven’t done this before. I was working full time for 2 years before we officially jumped into the business owners pool full time.

So far this week I’m counting Bay to Breakers as a very fun mission accomplished, with the story captured real time by our brilliant Rayne. That is a huge accomplishment. So why do I feel like I haven’t done enough?

The adjustments are still sinking in.

  • Ray has to commute, which means our early morning ritual of actually getting out of bed at 6 a.m. is now a necessity.
  • Traffic delays are a new reality to my seeing him at night.
  • I can’t pass off the web site template builds without waiting a week. I suck at waiting.
  • I can’t run upstairs and kiss my honey in the middle of the day
  • Cath and I have to remember to have lunch without Ray asking “Are you guys hungry yet?”

All this crap is reminding me how freaking easy I have it compared to so many situations out there. Sacrifice is part of working your dream. And if I can’t see my husband as often as I used to, it’s just part of the process while we build everything else up to the point where we are together all the time.

Then we will officially drive each other crazy.

What have you done to adjust your life around getting to your dream? Moved, changed careers, taken a pay cut, lost sleep? What’s the story you will be telling Oprah on how you got to your dream?

Remember to stretch before you go making those big adjustments this week ~


Heather’s dream is to have multiple streams of income, starting with launching an e-commerce website that showcases her one-of-a-kind designer jewelry, which are crafted by her. Her newly launched sites are couture jewelry available through For Your Adornment, and Twitter background designs on Twitter And Beyond Dot Com. She also teaches Social Media tactics for business, besides being CEO of her own web design company. Heather’s post day is Thursday.

  • Catherine, Site Admin

    Holy crap!

    How busy (sleepy) am I that I forgot to comment on your post until now?

    Must be that Bay to Breakers recovery I’m still thigh high in. Lordy.

    I have made soooooooo many adjustments to chase this dream . . . where do I begin? You know most all of them anyway.

    Let me quote your favorite Seth for you –
    “Extraordinary benefits accrue to the tiny majority of people who are able to push just a tiny bit longer than most.”

    Where in the hell is that wheelbarrow?

    Hugs, Cath

  • Toni Schram

    Life is always changing and it’s how we deal with it, is
    what really matters.

    Congratulations to Ray on his new job and you on a new
    kind of independence.

  • Remy, the photographer

    Glad you and Ray finally have a plan moving ahead…Laurie is right we are very busy, and it may see overwhelming at first…please reach out if you need help. My bright shiny objects get VERY bright in times of stress… I love your diamonds. Mine look more like headlights, but whatever!
    Love you Rem

  • Laurie Allen

    Nice Heather,
    It’s tuff to just stay married let alone enjoy it. Women are so freakin’ busy. I love the approach the feminine power chicks have to having it all. Check out their model for women achieving their dreams. http://www.feminine
    Hang in and I’ll see you at class. Congrats to your Man.
    Love, Laurie

  • Veronica

    I am definately stretching girlfriend, thanks for joining me at Bay to Breakers!!! You are a great support.